Shopping Therapy: Pleasure or Happiness?

I should have bought the other dress.

The story goes like this:
Once upon a time there was a king, he was rich, powerful, had a lovely palace, delicious food every day, beautiful wives and he could have whatever he wanted. Despite these, he was unhappy. This sad king had a very happy servant. The servant was bubbly, smiley and he was always singing happily. The king became inpatient with his happiness and asked the servant to tell him his secret. The servant replied that he didn’t have any secrets. This was just how he felt. Of course the king didn’t believe him and asked his wise consultant to help him solve the mystery of the happy servant.

When the king had explained the story to the wise old man, the old man smiled and replied: “It’s very simple my lord, he is happy because he’s outside of the circle of 99”. The king was really puzzled and the wise man suggested to bring the servant in the circle of 99 and see what will happen. The king was very satisfied with this idea.

It was simple. All the king had to do was to leave on the table of the servant’s house a sac with 99 golden coins with a note on top saying “This money is yours. It’s your prize for being such a good man. Enjoy!” When the servant found the sac couldn’t believe in his eyes. He was over the moon. He was hugging and kissing the sac and laughing and singing and thanking the God for his good fortune. Then he started counting the money. There were 99 golden coins. “There is one missing”, he thought. He searched all around the house for hours, he couldn’t find anything. He was sure then that someone took his one coin and he started swearing and cursing. Then he started thinking how he can gain this golden coin. He thought that after having this last coin he would be really happy and he could enjoy his life ever after. He did some calculations and decided that he needed 13 years in order to make one golden coin. “13 years” he though “is not too much, after that he can be happy for ever!” He sold all his furniture and his clothes and his wife’s clothes. He got a second job, he asked his wife to get a job, he was eating only a piece of bread everyday and he stopped burning wood to keep warm so he was sleeping in a cold room every night with hardly anything to wear and starving. And this is how he entered the circle of 99. He stopped being happy and stopped singing.

The moral of this story is that the 99 golden coins are the 100% of the treasure. However, we never stop thinking that we will find happiness in that last one nonexistent coin. Instead, if we enjoyed the treasure we already have, things would be different.

I Want More

That's the concept about shopping therapy. We shop to fill in the gap inside our souls. But is this really an escape from our real problems or just another distraction? Are we ever content by what we get or do material goods never satisfy us? It is true that happiness is not a permanent situation but a passing moment. However, happiness derived from the people we love lasts longer than the one we get by our invaluable possesions. That's because the latter is more evanescent that the former.
Money vs. Love
So I can't help but ask, does shopping therapy discourage relationships between people or does it boost them instead?
As genetically selfish creatures, humans would prefer carry their problems by themselves rather than be enslaved in others. Under these circumstances, ephemeral materials become our only intimate friends. After all, money might not bring you happiness but they do make depression more comfortable.
 On the other hand, shopping therapy enables us to communicate with our fellows and make new acquaintances. From this perspective, our possesions do please us either as a distraction from the identical routine or as a chance to become popular. But then again, popularity is also an illusion. Love can't be found in ephemeral relationships, but in strong bonds. 
So do you still believe in shopping therapy?

Passion is the joy of Competition

Are you sure you want to eliminate him or do your feelings drive you to kiss him instead?

Love and hatred are two different concepts to describe the same feeling. In this case, the common factor is passion. It is true that fierce emotions, whether they're favorable or not, ignite the passion between two people and they end up wondering whether they should give in to the temptation. 
Thus, hostility has nothing to do with indifference. Feeling nothing is not a fierce emotion.
When fought against, passion is intensified, but when it is admitted, the game becomes more unpredictable. It is commonly accepted that what makes competition more satisfactory is intense desire.

On the other hand, men are more prone to pure competition than women as they are more capable of controling their inner emotions. Therefore, a female can be easily distracted by her male opponent and unfortunately, men usually take advantage of this. However, unlike love, passion is an interactive emotion, which is determined by the chemistry between two people. Therefore, it can't be nourished by one person at a time.
So, would you consider making friends(or more) with your enemy?

Choosing Mr. Wrong

When you were little, you were dreaming of becoming a princess. Back then, a beautiful dress and Cinderella's shoes would do, but now you need the prince and his white horse.
In a world that every value has changed and romance has become a movie thing, can we still hope on this romantic stuff?

The Perfect Man
So you find that guy that you think he might be the man of your dreams, the father of your children. Better yet, in your mind, you're already married. In a quarter of a second, you've decided he's the one who's gonna fulfill your dreams. But in the end of the day, he's just another guy.
Then when you least expect it, comes the guy who promises to love you forever and ever and although you know he's the right person for you, your heart still has another opinion. And then you wonder, why do I always come to love Mr. Wrong?
Love IS blind

Could it be that instead of princesses we desire to be drama queens? Virtual romance has taught us that we can't love without getting hurt. This implies the sentence "Love mistakes make you stronger". However, when you're really hearbroken these little sentences will do little to you. To that time, you just need to stay alone and cry your eyes out. Could it be that our heart has a natural mechanism that clings for pain and delusion? That's quite unhopeful and I really doubt there exists such a thing as the perfect man. And here comes the question, should we be satisfied with something less than what we really want or try for the better even if this means we will have to wait forever?

Become Popular At School

Good morning everyone! I hope you still read my blog!In two days, my summer vacation will be over and I'll be back to life-consuming school.

The romantic love letters behind the teacher's back.

The annoying bitch.

The style you will choose for your everyday appearance.

Boring research for school.

"School taught me how to text without looking."

Yeah, I know -Boring!
Anyway, I want to make a fresh start. In fact, I say that every time the school year begins. The difficult part is to actually do it. Like I want to forget that ex-boyfriend, buy new clothes and stuff, meet people, flirt with new guys, get better grades.
But then again, why would someone want to shine in high school and not in their adulthood? It's true that whoever becomes popular in high school, his fame lasts as long as school ends. That's pitiful, isn't it;
Popularity at school won't bring you a good career or family later in your life. It will just boost your reputation as a teenager.
However, if after all these discussion you still want to become popular then why shouldn't you be? You're smart, beautiful, have many talents or have good sense of humor...whatever. Use your talents. Don't be all misersable! Find that special attribute you have and show it off. After all, everyone's special at something and that includes you as well. You just don't know it yet.

Online Relationship

Would you ever start a new relationship with a guy that you're only connection has been sitting up late on facebook together?


Your mama would put the label "dangerous", but you can't deny the sexy guy that you finally got the chance to approach. Even if that means that you have to refresh you're facebook profile.
After sometime, you feel you've learned everything about him, but again without a real first date, he is still just a dream. Then you start discovering common interests and you find out that you've met your perfect match -or even a close one.
After that comes the day when he actually asks you out and you can't find the courage to say yes 'cuz he might not like you in person. Or the opposite might happen, you will find that he's the most irritating guy in the whole universe. Should you let it remain an elusive dream then, or take the risk and try meeting him?  Some dreams should stay the way they are 'cuz life does not always promise a happy end. In fact, we will encounter many twists and turns 'till we find what we estimate as the perfect guy.
Similarly, we need to make some mistakes to find the right way. After all, the right way would not even exist, but for the wrong one. And if you think that those are really tough words, then think that feelings are also tough.
Be yourself - the real you, and be sure to have a great date with the dream-guy.
I wish you good-luck!

About Me

I'm a teenage girl -this means you're gonna hear lots of school stuff so... get ready! Huh, no I'm just kidding!

The truth is that I don't wanna talk only about love and relationships, but also important issues that concern teenagers.

Adolesence is the worst age, but it is also our step to adulthood. As grown-ups we should feel free to discuss a variety of issues including awkward ones, so we better stop facing everything with a child's mind.

That's what I'm gonna do here. If you're not interested...shame on you!

Again, just kidding! Don't take it all too seriously!

I hope you like my new blog!
Here I'm gonna write about my thoughts and experiences.
I would be lucky if you identified yourself with my stories.
Well, have fun with it!